I think the "him" is interchangeable with "her." Don't think Finn meant this as a one sided issue of girls making boys like them. I think we all know many instances of guys making girls like them and/or hiding behind them in their relationships.
guys, the concept of this album is "boys and girls and america have such a sad time together". it's not blaming girls, it's just saying it's sad that people have such unfulfilling and addictive/codependent relationships.