NOTE: There is little known about OS other than data our community has gathered from our personal relationships with objects. So we are not claiming to have any clinical basis, only the practical knowledge gained from each other. We welcome and currently seek professional input and study in regards to OS. We are not looking for a cure but more comprehension into our make-up as an emerging part of society.
Objectùm-Sexuality is an orientation to love objects.
Sexual orientation is defined as the nature of sexual preference while the prolific definition stands as: the direction of someone's sexual desire toward people of the opposite gender, people of the same gender, or people of both. This does not include objects.
However, orientation itself is defined as: a complex mental state involving beliefs and feelings and values and dispositions to act in certain ways. This does include objects as we see it.
We love objects and many of us in an intimate way and this feeling is innate. Objectùm-sexual love comes for most in a similar awakening as other sexualities at the start of puberty. This is often followed by an acute awareness that we do not relate to peers due to the source of the projected feelings. Often objectùm-sexual people feel outcast or pressured by mainstream sexuality with a helpless feeling that we cannot change what comes so naturally.
What is the natural feeling of OS?
Just as mainstream are attracted to certain types of people, physical/intellectual, objectùm-sexuals feel a strong attraction towards objects possessing, in particular, certain geometry/function. Often this attraction is regarded as an obsession to a degree that provokes criticism.
What makes OS different from an obsession?
Truly there is not much difference. Love is a feeling that preoccupies one's thoughts. This in its own right describes a degree of obsession where all focus is on the one desired. An obsession is based on an extreme keenness for an object and that defines the significance. However, the difference for objectùm-sexuals is our love and attraction for the object is what devotes our interest to a level that appears merely obsessive.
How can one love an inanimate object?
Indeed, the meaning of love comes into question. However, there is no single definition because this feeling has many levels and crosses every part of the spectrum. Virtually every one and every thing can be loved. Love does not have any rules that requisite to whom or to what we express this multifaceted emotion, as long as it causes no violation or harm to the subjected.
The spectrum of love is so vast; one may relate it to a bell curve. In the middle will certainly appear the majority of those whose relationships can be characterized by the similarities to whom and how they love. And at one end of this curve, that is where Objectùm-sexuality finds its place. While we have no firm numerical data, we are clearly a minority which facilitates the criticism of our way of love and life. But none-the-less, we still fall under the curve of the enigmatic emotion known as love.
OK, so the question isn't answered for those who strongly believe that love must be reciprocated to be in and have a relevant relationship. Naturally, if one sees objects as inanimate, then objectùm-sexual love and our relationships would undeniably be scrutinized. Indeed, there are cases of love being one-sided as with any orientation, but in general we do feel love in return.
How can one love a public object?
We do not all love public objects but certainly the ones who do, they may face complications similar to people in long distance relationships. Unless there is regular contact, such as working for or around the object, distance can pose a difficult problem for the development of a connection. To overcome the challenge, many objectùm-sexuals build or acquire scale models. While models cannot replace the original, they provide a link as an extension of the object. Similar to people carrying photographs or articles such as jewelry to remind of their distant lover. Naturally, whenever possible, we prefer to be with the object we love.
How does one communicate with an object?
One must learn a structure of language to speak fluently with others. This comes naturally as a form of adaptation when we are younger or later in life due to impairment of core communication skills. It is via our intense feelings (naturally noted as obsession by most) that our interests are driven in everything related to the object. The more knowledge we learn and internalize, the more we develop the ability to sense the object.
Communication comes in many forms besides verbal. We learn to commune with the object via sensations, not verbal cues. However, this does not imply that we can converse with all objects. People communicate better with some people, and less or none with others, just as we do with objects. Even so, that does not stop some objectùm-sexuals from talking aloud to objects as a basic means to communicate for a person.
Intimacy and OS.
As a matter of course, this is the topic that rouses the most curiosity. The issue of sex with objects stirs certain inquisitiveness in people that often leads to censure. And to ask whether we do "it" is like asking whether all couples in love have sex. Most often the answer is yes but in some cases, as with any loving relationship, sex is not always present for whatever personal reason.
Also the definition of sex comes into question. It is natural to assume that OS people must have sex like other people to be intimate with an object. This often lends to the fear towards those who love public objects. Our objects are NOT human so sex cannot be defined the same way. Intimacy may be simply touching or more or less for some.
What is the difference between OS intimacy and masturbation?
Clearly the one of the most irritating questions we entertain when a person gets a mental image of us in “the act” with an object. Naturally, it would seem there is no difference because the question is being posed by one who does not love the object. OS intimacy is not instrumental manipulation to self pleasure. In the case of a person utilizing some object in this manner, the object is none other than a means to an end. To an OS person, our intimate focus is on the object we love.
Is OS a fetish?
No, objectùm-sexuality is not a fetish. While a fetishist must have their desired object present as a catalyst to achieve sexual gratification, the love for our object is not based on a habitual psychosexual response. It is the object that captivates us on many more levels besides sexual arousal. Fetishists do not see the object as animate as we do and therefore do not commence to develop a loving relationship with the object.
Are there factors that cause one to be OS?
Of course, we have all asked the question WHY to ourselves time and again but currently no definitive answer can be found to explain our tendency to form relationships with objects.
However, as we grow as a community, we have internally discovered that less than one-third of OS people are also diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, a spectrum of autism.
The study of any existing relationship is still pending but it is possible that objectùm-sexuals with Aspergers syndrome relate to certain objects of interest better than people due to impaired social functioning from early childhood when mainstream social bonds are influenced and conditioned.
This may include an underlying link for a small percent of objectùm-sexuals with a history of severe childhood trauma who suffer anxiety in personal relations with people due to trust issues.
There is also a denominator of gender dysphoria amongst a small percentage of objectùm-sexuals.
The possibility of links exists yet most people with the above mentioned are not OS at all and more than half of objectùm-sexuals report no outstanding psychological condition. They are very adept and function well socially which lends more to their fear of coming out and disrupting the balance.
Are there fears regarding OS people?
Sadly, the media has a blatant history of sensationalizing the sexual aspect and portraying a false sense that we are openly sexual, thus raising fears of OS people behaving inappropriately in public. When in reality, most OS people are very keen on preserving the integrity of the object and clearly respect that intimacy is private. This is even more so for those who love landmark objects.
Why do OS people love landmark objects?
Understand that only a very small percentage of objectùm-sexuals love well-known landmarks due to the complexities involved. It is often least desired to love an object shared with so many.
However, the presence of a landmark draws more attention and may offer the OS person a deeper sense of connection due to the pronounced availability of information about the object. There stems a likelihood that interest could develop. Beyond that, it is between the person and the object if a relationship ensues.
Do OS people love more than one object?
Indeed, polyamorous relationships exist amongst objectùm-sexual individuals and may involve objects that are related via structure, location, and/or function.
Are all OS people female?
No. Early numbers suggested most objectum-sexual people were women, however; more recent numbers reveal a growing number of men are stepping forward and relating to being objectum-sexual.
©2008-09 Objectùm-Sexuality Internationale
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mryn Dear Last FM-PEOPLE
Sorry I haven't been around lately but there was Imeem and Ilike, and I really can't stay faithful, I guess; but I was brought back to the Last.Fm fold when I thought a French Girl had written me a sexy letter (she turned out to be a really cool French Guy mandrak2000 who put all of my albums in his virtual library, comme ca - "Journal de mandrak2000 – Streamable album and Free download, the Virtual Library – Last.fm" http://bit.ly/MMjKm - so maybe I'll just have un l'homme-crush instead); then I flirted with a Polish girl, but when she found out I was American, it was over before it started… whatevs…her loss. It got me to update and upload new stuff onto OS.
HERE'S A VIDEO INTRODUCTION FROM THE SEMI-ANNULLING WORLD OF *NICHOPOULOUZO. http://lh6.ggpht.com/_6uK9p2Gq3ME/SjKUVDabBbI/AAAAAAAAAkw/nnoe7z81X3c/s288/85d6691f0c6f9ebd244432edb9b2c842.png YouTube + Last.Fm (utilizing multimedia and Elvis reading an original poem, where you'll hear him say 'Crushed his fuckin' skull' and laugh.)
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JUST UPLOADED A GROOVY CAT IN THE HAT 50TH B-DAY JAM THAT IS IRRESPONSIBLY SUSSEX Q AND A NICE LITTLE ULYSSES SNIPPET…IT WOULDN'T TAKE MY JIM DICKINSON WFMU RADIO SETLIST WHICH JUST CAME OUT TODAY, BUT I'LL TRY AGAIN AND I'LL ALSO BE PUTTING ON A SUPERCOOL WILLY DEVILLE TRIBUTE SHOW FROM LA LIBERACION.http://q.liberation.fr/photo/20090807/picto_audio_0302_150_100_63803.jpg/m:1250883191 SO LOOK FOR THOSE AND CHECK OUT THE OTHERS AND JOIN THE DAMN OS GROUP. SORRY IT HAS 'FUCK' IN THE TITLE BUT UNLESS YOU AND YOUR BOSS AND KIDS HANG OUT HERE TOGETHER, WHICH WOULD JUST BE PLAIN WEIRD, WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE. SO FAR IT'S REALLY WORKED OUT WELL AS A GREAT WAY TO KEEP THE OS RADIO PURE THOUGH. SO IF YOU WANNA HEAR SOME PURE OS RADIO CHECK IT OUT.AND THEN JOIN, THE GROUP: OBJECTUM-SEXUALIS! MUSIC ABOUT FUCKING OBJECTS!
'WHY I LIKE LAST.FM'
YOU: 'WHAT COULD A LAST.FM MEMBER POSSIBLY HAVE THAT I WOULD FIND COOL? I'M SO COOL. I LISTEN TO WFMU AND SOMETIMES THEY'RE NOT EVEN AS COOL AS I AM… LIKE THAT ONE TIME A DJ PLAYED A SONG I'D HEARD BEFORE. NO WAY COULD A MEMBER OF THE GENERAL PUBLIC HAVE ANYTHING I'D BE INTERESTED IN, OR HADN'T ALREADY HEARD, AND CHECKED OFF OF MY 'TO-DONE WITH' LIST.'
ME: I'M TELLIN' YOU, 'CAVEMAN IN A HIPSTER SPACESHIP,' YESTERDAY A GUY WITH A RUDIMENTARTY PENI /NICK BLINKO STATION SENT ME A FRIEND REQUEST…'
YOU: 'OH, NICK BLINKO…SO PEDESTRIAN…'
ME: 'FUCK YOU!' 'FUCK YOU!'.
… and right now The Harvey Averne Dozen JUST CAME ON. I HAD NO IDEA WHO EITHER OF THOSE TWO ARTISTS WERE AND TOMORROW WON'T CARE, BUT RIGHT NOW, THE IDEA OF A RANDOM STATION CONTROLLED BY WHAT I'VE PLAYED IN THE PAST, IS GREAT.
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Welcome to Objectùm-Sexuality Internationale!
This international website about objectùm-sexuality, (widely known as Objektophil in Germany), is designed to offer a support network for objectùm-sexuals (Objektophile) and education for friends and family about objectùm-sexuality (Objektophil), and insight into our way of accepting, living, and adapting as individuals who are in love with objects.
The internet offers amazing resources to make connections with others; old classmates, lost family members, and like-minded individuals.
Twelve years ago, Eija-Riitta Eklöf Berliner-Mauer from North Sweden took a chance and braved hoards of criticism from faceless critics on the internet in an effort to find others like her: people who love objects… objectùm-sexuals… aka OS people, also known as objectophiles.
Since then, Oliver Arndt from Germany and Erika Eiffel from America have built the largest network of objectum-sexual people from different countries.
This website is not meant to change the minds of people… We are not looking for a following, rather a reckoning of other objectum-sexuals so we may provide support, realization, and hope to one another. Thank you for opening your mind and looking over the Fence.
2009.4.8 On the 2nd year anniversary of her commitment to the Eiffel Tower, Erika Eiffel is featured on ABC News Good Morning America
Erika's love and connection for objects throughout her life may have brought her misunderstanding and rejection but true to her deep rooted feelings, she has been empowered by her OS relationships to achieve amazing goals.
In the first media to address OS in the the United States, Dr. Amy Marsh shares her expertise as a clinical sexologist. Is OS a possible orientation rather than a paraphile?
2009.2.24 Objectum-sexuality found its way into the script of the US medical drama Nip/Tuck.
Dr Taper, a plastic surgeon hired to replace Dr. Troy is revealed to be OS.
The show alludes to his interest in a particular decor with various comments and verbal slips in early scenes. Later, alone in his office-to-be, Dr Taper romances Dr Troy's oak desk with a kiss and graduates to the sofa where he is caught in the act by Dr. Troy and McNamara.
Highly embarrassed Dr. Taper opts to reveal to the stunned doctors that he is objectum-sexual and briefly explains the definition of his OS, his belief in animism, and his attraction for perfection. He is subsequently requested to leave.
2009.2.8 Erika Eiffel was featured on RTL Punkt 12*, midday news in Germany. Filmed in Paris at the Eiffel Tower, Erika sets the record straight after an exploitative take on her OS in June 2008 nearly destroyed her relationship with the object of her affection. Focusing less on sexual sensationalizing and more on facts and psychological analysis, this documentary goes to the core of Erika's love and connection to the Eiffel Tower.
Krüger: What is going through your mind after seeing your latest film?
Eiffel: "Finally, RTL did it right! Wow, after suffering from the nasty fallout from that sensationalized paparazzi crap from the UK, RTL showed the reality of my objectum-sexual love.
Krüger: So where does this leave you now?
Eiffel: Well, I don't regret that I took part in the UK film because it brought some awareness to objectum-sexuality and helped our community grow. My only regret is that my naivety fell into the hands of a director with no regard for moral decency when portraying my love for objects. What one does in front of the camera when urged is very different from real life. I have never been open with my intimacy and that film was a load of crock to portray that I am.
Krüger: What made the difference if you don't mind explaining?
Eiffel: The RTL director was awesome! Thanks Stefan!!! Finally, I could say and express what I really felt and not what I was encouraged to for ratings. He never pushed me to discuss intimacy with objects, nor did he betray my trust when it came to sensitive topics.
You can see the difference because I am choppy and uptight in the UK film like I am reading my lines. I didn't like the director nor did I like the woman I was being filmed with because she was too overt about her sex with little regard to consequence.
In the RTL Film, I completely respected and trusted the director and I was free to speak with no pressure and no incessant questions about sex, nor staged sex scenes.
Krüger: Where to from here?
Eiffel: Well, my hope is that people will realize the difference between entertainment and real news and disregard the UK film because it is not the reality of Objectum-sexuality. Thanks again to Stefan and the crew at RTL!
2008.10.23 Oliver was featured in a documentary film for RTL2 in Germany. The preview:
A proud 37 years and 95 tons of steel separate Oliver from his - in the truest sense - large love. For most humans it is almost incomprehensible, but the 43-year old fell in love for real with a steam locomotive. For him the colossal of steel with its sexy smoke stack and the hot steam cylinders is like a human loving partner.
But then something tragic happens: His "Sahneschnittchen" disappears without a trace from the museum. On this day Oliver suffers intolerable grief. Allegedly his steel lover is to be disassembled in an abandoned locomotive shed. In hopes to have one last night with his darling, Oliver embarks on the search for the object of his longing.
2008.6 International media has taken a light to OS and featured the object marriages of Eija-Riitta Eklöf Berliner-Mauer and Erika Eiffel in numerous articles, radio interviews, and television programs. This is the first international recognition of Objectùm-Sexuality and while the media tends to be rather judgmental of OS and sensationalistic, we are pleased that people are "looking over the Fence" and even more pleased that others like us are realizing they are not one and alone in this world.
2008.4.5 - 6.15 The 5th Berlin Biennial for contemporary art features a exhibition on OS from the talented Norwegian artist, Lars Laumann. On the grounds of the former border strip in Berlin, the 30 min film captures the true essence of OS as a natural orientation as Eija-Riitta Berliner Mauer tells her account of being OS and what it means to love objects. The film briefly features Erika Eiffel who also loves the Berlin Wall today, how she found Eija-Riitta, and how they both came to accept their unique love of the Berlin Wall in past and present. And finally a stirring finale as Eija-Riitta openly shares her feelings about the fall of the Berlin Wall 9 November, 1989.
Interview with Lars
2008.5 Bizarre Magazine (UK) - a very informative article on OS featuring Eija-Riitta (Wall-Winther) and Erika (Kiowa): OS sisters who both love the Berlin Wall, how they found each other, and how they both love Berliner Mauer in the past and today. The original magazine article also featured photos and love poems for the Berlin Wall from both women.
NOTICE: OS Internationale does NOT sanction the 2008 UK film "Married to the Eiffel Tower" (Landmark Sex).
Despite featuring OSI members Eija-Riita Berliner Mauer and Erika Naisho Eiffel, this film is firmly denounced by the objectum-sexual community for its exploitative and sensationalized take on OS.
Objectum-Sexuality Internationale - Homepage for Objectum-Sexuals & Objectum Sexuality info with Objectum sexual history
Ein Phänomen, keine Krankheit: Die 36-jährige Erika ist verliebt - in den Eiffel-Turm.
Aber nicht etwa, weil sie die Konstruktion so schön findet. Erika liebt den Eiffel-Turm so wie sich sonst nur Paare lieben. Objektliebe nennen das Sexualtherapeuten. Dabei handelt es sich nicht etwa um eine Krankheit, sondern um ein Phänomen. Für Menschen könnte Erika, die mit dem Eiffel-Turm sogar verheiratet ist, diese Gefühle nie empfinden…
Objectum-Sexuality: RTL Punkt 12 - Verheiratet mit dem Eiffelturm
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