This is not about any one event. It is about realizing why we are who we are. The shelf in the room could be anything, husband, father, wife anything. He is saying THIS is who I am but it is because of the shelf. I have never wanted to face the reality of the situation. I can see now that my beliefs differ. If you asked someone how come they voted a certain way and their answer is because of the way I was raised, because of my parents, you have a shelf. A habit that you have adopted for ease, not one you realized for your self.