Selfless, Cold and Composed (6:09)

Cover of Whatever and Ever Amen

From Whatever and Ever Amen and 5 other releases

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  • chadderack

    It isn't really an angry song; it's just an observation about how this woman is acting, and he's disappointed and heartbroken over how she acted like the relationship never meant anything. The difference is he isn't really judging her polite smile; he understands. The music is brilliant, btw.

    3 Apr 5:59am Reply
  • foobula

    Jazzy percussion & piano, great walking bassline, sweet vocals & melody, bittersweet lyrics, dramatic strings, even jingle bells at the end -- this song's got it all!

    26 Nov 2013 Reply
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    8 May 2013 Reply
  • Taurus-1

    One of my faves of all time!

    21 Dec 2012 Reply
  • Monade2010

    ~ ♪ ♡ ♫ ~ :O) ~ ♪ ♡ ♫ ~

    30 May 2012 Reply
  • dewfish

    love the piano has cool mellow jazz feel one of my faves [2]

    28 Apr 2012 Reply
  • occhic

    This is a hightlight of a brilliant album. Just too beautiful...

    15 Jul 2010 Reply
  • Lilyface121

    My God I love this entire album. I can't get enough of it.

    1 Jul 2010 Reply
  • caeander

    It's easy to be, easy and free....

    23 Jun 2010 Reply
  • clutnuckle

    TimeIsFading hit the nail right on the head, and indeed this song is masterpiece of sorts.

    13 Jun 2010 Reply
  • speedpop

    My favourite part is from 2:45 onwards. Brilliance.

    6 Mar 2010 Reply
  • TimeIsFading

    This song perfectly relates to what I've been going through recently. This is the song about a girl who has dumped her boyfriend and while he is still emotionally attached to her, she is cool, probably playing the "Let's Be Friends" card. So the person who is saying these words is telling her that the way she has detached herself from all of the things that their relationship used to mean disgusts him. He's still worked up about it and she's calm. This is a beautiful song, one of the best Ben Folds Five songs on this album.

    16 Sep 2009 Reply
  • felon182

    This is one of those songs that instantly transport me back to when I first heard it, all of the emotions and thoughts I had at the time hit me as soon as I hear the piano part. Truly a great song, smile like a bank teller blankly telling me: 'have a nice life'.

    19 May 2009 Reply
  • Ighuc

    Yes! Favorite BFF song!

    11 Nov 2008 Reply
  • jane_eyre07

    I love the lyrics and the jazzy melody. I can completely relate to this song right now.

    31 Oct 2008 Reply
  • ChatTypeman

    Haven't heard this in forever. "Don't just stare like you never cared, I know you did" - that part totally gave me chills.

    14 Oct 2008 Reply
  • omnivoreron

    It's angry, but excellent.

    26 Sep 2008 Reply
  • zhalli

    love the piano has cool mellow jazz feel one of my faves

    11 Aug 2008 Reply
  • Evader

    This is quite possibly the angriest song I have ever heard. Moreso than any temper-tantrum metal or whiny alt-rock.

    2 Jul 2008 Reply
  • Livealot

    Considering that almost all Folds' songs are so freakin' awesome composition-wise, lyrically and musically, you guys make some pretty bold claims about this one song.

    6 Jun 2008 Reply
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