Non-monogamy

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Leader: anarchoqueer
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Created on: 21 Sep 2008
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I was surprised to find that there were no non-monogamy groups of any kind on Last.fm. So I decided to start one. =P

Actually, I was wrong. There is a polyamory group here. But not all non-monogamous people are polyamorous, so my group still serves a purpose. XD

Non-monogamy is a blanket term covering several different types of interpersonal relationships in which some or all participants have multiple marital, sexual, and/or romantic partners. This can be contrasted with its opposite, which is monogamy (describes an exclusive relationship between two people).

(Note: While this definition of non-monogamy seems to be generally accepted, I believe that there is more to it than that.

For instance, I am polyamorous. Just as my sexuality will not change, I will remain polyamorous regardless of whether I happen to be practicing a polyamorous relationship at any given time. It is a part of who I am. If I am single or dating one partner, I am still attracted to many people and still open to the possibility of multiple relationships in the future. While I am capable of being with only one person, it's pretty much guaranteed that I will have at least one other crush while I am dating someone, and I need to feel comfortable discussing this with my partner without fearing that they will become jealous. I need to know that I have the option of going out with other people if the opportunity arises.

Basically, polyamory is my nature; whether I like it or not, it is an inherent tendency in me, and I cannot change it. I'm not sure if this applies to others, but I thought I would add this disclaimer, anyway. So if you have never been in a non-monogamous relationship, but you are interested in it, please join. Those who have been in non-monogamous relationships in the past are welcome, as well. You don't have to be currently practicing non-monogamy to be non-monogamous.)

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Forms of non-monogamy include:

Polyamory, in which participants have multiple romantic partners---always consensual

Polyfidelity, in which participants have multiple partners but restrict sexual activity to within a certain group

Open marriages and open relationships, in which one or both members of a committed couple may become sexually active with other partners

Swinging, similar to open relationships, but commonly conducted as an organized social activity

Polygyny, in which men have multiple wives

Polyandry, in which women have multiple husbands

Polygamy, a term encompassing both polygyny and polyandry

Group marriage (also termed polygynandry), in which several people form a single family unit, with all considered to be married to one another

PolyFamilies, similar to group marriage, but some members may not consider themselves married to all other members

Line families, a form of group marriage intended to outlive its original members by ongoing addition of new spouses

Plural marriage, a form of polygyny associated with the The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the 19th-century and with present-day splinter groups from that faith. It is also associated with an evangelical splinter group which advocates Christian Plural Marriage

Most of the description above was taken from this Wikipedia article.

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Shedrink

hi , cheers frmo brazil =3

May 2011
anarchoqueer

Huh? How is that? Even if you're not having sex, you can still have more than one relationship. Or you could be a non-monogamous person who isn't practicing at the moment or hasn't had a chance to.

January 2010
Frenchcon1

Non monogamous people could be celibates. INCORRECT LOGIC.

January 2010
Conchesumadre

Why all people leave this group?

January 2010
anarchoqueer

Wingnut Dishwasher's Union is the wrong tag, people. It's Wingnut Dishwashers Union. No apostrophe. =P

August 2009
anarchoqueer

Indeed.

August 2009
anarchoqueer

Until recently, neither had I. I wish I hadn't. XD

July 2009
ImDaneCook

I don't think I've ever heard a Lady GaGa song

July 2009
anarchoqueer

Good. I would do the same in that situation. =P

July 2009
Deroenekes

Where I now live.... Turkey, polygamy is exclusivly for men and it is discusting :( So as a man I have chosen to be mono... not to get involved with those male bastards who think they can rule everything.

July 2009
anarchoqueer

I added all of those. Thanks.

June 2009
Gezzaia

Jefferson Airplane and Grace Slick & The Great Society should be added too. They have pro-poly songs.

June 2009
anarchoqueer

I'll also add Tribe 8, because their song Freedom is anti-monogamy. =P

June 2009
anarchoqueer

Oh, and Gay For Johnny Depp has a song called Fucking Isn't Cheating. Haha.

June 2009
anarchoqueer

I heard that Jucifer are swingers (they're married to eachother), and Crass has songs that poke fun at monogamy, so those are exceptions.

June 2009
anarchoqueer

Yeah, I just tried to add artists that I thought would be non-monogamy/poly-friendly. =P So is Peaches polyamorous? She was your only artist connection when I first saw your group. Either way, I added her to our artist connections.

June 2009
kerdekel

Le Tigre, what a great idea of connection, love it. \o/

June 2009
kerdekel

That's cool. :D

June 2009
bohwaz

Great :)

June 2009
anarchoqueer

I guess there is a poly group, after all: http://www.last.fm/group/Polyamory .

June 2009