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  • How shy are you?

    I'm so shy that I almost didn't post this, because omg what if everyone thinks this is a dumb topic??

    :(

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    • nuvens said...
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    • 21 Feb 2006, 20:18
    I'm somewhat shy. I'm okay to talk to someone I don't know, but only if they talk to me first. I never approach someone I don't know. I don't talk in class unless I'm really really sure of an answer and its a really small class.

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    • [Deleted user] said...
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    • 21 Feb 2006, 22:28
    put me in a room full of people i don't know, and you'll find me quickly attach myself to one of the corners - most probably the darkest, quietest one. I'll be thinking of ways i can get out of the situation... i've suddenly caught some really nasty bug... gotta take this really important phone call... gosh i've got such a weak bladder...

    gosh i hate situations like that so much. the pained expression on my face must be a real treat.

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  • I'm really shy. At school I don't talk at all, except to people I know really well and my teachers. I never talk to people I don't know unless they approach me first. I don't call people on the phone unless I really have to. When I talk, my fellow 8th graders (most of whom are idiots) say, "wow she has a mouth!". Back in 6th grade, at the end of the school, my teacher was giving out mock awards and I got the "Speak Up I Can't Hear Ya!" award. It's weird because this is only in my offline life, I'll to talk to anyone online


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    • RachL04 said...
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    • 22 Feb 2006, 05:17
    I used to conduct these social experiments in high school. At lunch, I'd see how long I could go before someone actually bothered to engage me in discussion. The results were actually sort of depressing. There were days that I could go the entire lunch period without saying a word, and no one seemed to notice.

    I typically do contribute when I feel led to though. I don't know, I'm really shy, but at the same time, I just love watching how people interact to what I say. Interpersonal communication is fascinating.

    "If music is my lover, you are just a tease"
    --Rogue Wave "Kicking the Heart Out"
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  • i'm terribly shy and quiet. i never open up my mouth to say a word to anyone, not even my family. i don't like to draw any kind of attention to myself. i have no social skills and i hate being in any kind of social situation. it gives me horrible anxiety and i'll try any and everything i can to get out of it. a lot of it is probably just that i'm so self concious (sp?) and paranoid about doing or saying something stupid or people not liking me for whatever reason because it's happened in the past. i keep thinking there's no way in hell i could ever get married in front of people. i'd probably pass out before even making it to the aisle :(

    i've been told by several people tho, that i'm not shy at all. just mean and antisocial and i don't think that's true. i'm definitely not a talkative person, but more of a listener and observer. really, the only way to get me to open up is to engage me in conversation about music or art or graphic design - something i'm passionate about.

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  • i'm generally pretty shy. i'm used to repeating practically everything i say, because not only am i shy, but i have a soft voice too. the only people i'm ever loud around are my close friends and family. i get embarrassed really easily and definitely dread being called on in classes. that might be pathetic to some people but i absolutely hate it. i would definitely say that i like smaller groups of people though; i hate big classes. and i too, like to observe rather than participate all the time.

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  • i am alot like twilight12...

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    • X-SPAWN said...
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    • 23 Feb 2006, 03:15
    I as well am terribly timid and shy in the proverbial "real world", yet loud, obnoxious and out-spoken on the Internet. I'm not a very good spontaneous discussion-type person. I could hold my own in a relious or political debate, usually, but confronted by a teacher or peer I'll forget what I was going to say and just sort of clam up.

    Also, I am a big digressor. I think about what I should say to the point where everything I think sounds stupid to me; thus, I don't say it. I always feel terrible after such a situation. This-apart from the fact I also self-deprecate and mock myself a good amount--probably is a major reason I have a bunch of ignorant morons as friends and have no "love-life" to speak of.

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  • I am definitely shy. It seems to take me a while to warm up to people, unless I'm talking through a keyboard. :-P And I swear, it must be a law of physics that ANY type of social situation in which I make any sort of attempt to make a good impression must result in disaster and humiliation! :-/

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    • [Deleted user] said...
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    • 23 Feb 2006, 10:51
    I used to be very shy. But I kind of grew out of that. I dont know how it happened really, I just don't think about how people see me anymore, so I've got less to worry about.
    I still don't have thousands of best-friends-EVER or something, and I'm still pretty silent and I like being alone, but I'm not that shy anymore that it's bugging me.

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    Quoth twilight12:
    i'm generally pretty shy. i'm used to repeating practically everything i say, because not only am i shy, but i have a soft voice too. the only people i'm ever loud around are my close friends and family. i get embarrassed really easily and definitely dread being called on in classes. that might be pathetic to some people but i absolutely hate it. i would definitely say that i like smaller groups of people though; i hate big classes. and i too, like to observe rather than participate all the time.

    I'm just like that.
    I'm not as shy as I used to be, and I'm getting better at talking to people, but sometimes things knock me back.

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  • :) it's honestly really nice to know other people feel the same way.

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    • [Deleted user] said...
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    • 24 Feb 2006, 00:28
    I'm quite the same as you, I often don't speak up with what I'm thinking unless I'm absolutly sure of it and what others' reactions will be. People usually mistake that for stupidity. :(

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    It depends: When I'm aroudn intelligent people, I know that we share a lot more in common and I'm not afraid to speak out or do outlandish things, but as soon as I'm stuck with average people I tend to be very very quiet because I feel like they are judging me more. Also, I feel more comfortable with complete strangers because I know that I will probably never see any of them again so it really doesn't matter what I do or say versus a group of classmates or something, because I know I'll have to face them the next day.

    Usually I try and avoid conversations with new people all together unless they look like a down-to-earth or cool person.

    I'm getting much better, though.

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  • When I'm around my group of close-knit friends, I'm actually generally pretty talkative (though the "getting drowned out" thing is still an issue), but I think I've only once ever talked to someone who didn't talk to me first. If I ever get the attention of a group, I scramble to either get out of the situation completely or at least re-shift the attention. If it's a group of people I don't know very well, I rarely (if ever) say anything, and if I do, it's only when I know what the reaction will be.

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    • Ninny said...
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    • 25 Feb 2006, 11:42
    Looking at how I used to be, I'm a social hero now. But it took me twenty years to get where I am at this moment.

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  • I'm fairly shy. I can be social with people I know really well but I can't approach or hold a conversation with strangers (lots of awkward silences). Despite that, I have no problem with public speaking for some reason.

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    I'm fairly shy. I can be social with people I know really well but I can't approach or hold a conversation with strangers (lots of awkward silences). Despite that, I have no problem with public speaking for some reason.

    I'm pretty much the exact same way.

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    • RachL04 said...
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    • 26 Feb 2006, 02:10
    despite my shyness, I've sort of taught myself to appreciate "awkward silences" and even to be amused by them. (that might actually make the situation worse or more awkward for the other person... maybe that's why I do it. haha.)

    "If music is my lover, you are just a tease"
    --Rogue Wave "Kicking the Heart Out"
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    Quoth RachL04:
    despite my shyness, I've sort of taught myself to appreciate "awkward silences" and even to be amused by them. (that might actually make the situation worse or more awkward for the other person... maybe that's why I do it. haha.)

    While I can appreciate the social experiment, just the fact that it makes me uncomfortable is enough for me to get agitated (the shuffling feet, not knowing where to avert the eyes, racking the brain for some common conversation topic).. but I adore comfortable silences (when I'm comfortable enough with someone to not feel the need/desire to fill every moment with conversation).

    "Build a man a fire and he'll be warm for a day. Set a man on fire and he'll be warm for the rest of his life." -Terry Pratchett
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    Quoth twilight12:
    :) it's honestly really nice to know other people feel the same way.

    Isn't it just?
    I'm so glad this group is here!

    Oh, another thing, I was talking with someone I don't know that well the other day, and there were some awkward silences. That also happens quite a bit. Even on MSN, I get stuck for something to say, so the conversation sort of stops until one of us signs out. I don't mean for it to happen, and they probably think I'm rude because of that, but it just happens.

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    • RachL04 said...
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    • 26 Feb 2006, 23:04

    Re: Re:

    Quoth LazarusComplex:
    I adore comfortable silences.

    well said. you know you really connect with someone when you can just appreciate their company and their mere presence.

    "If music is my lover, you are just a tease"
    --Rogue Wave "Kicking the Heart Out"
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    Quoth RachL04:
    well said. you know you really connect with someone when you can just appreciate their company and their mere presence.

    To quote Mia Wallace (of Pulp Fiction):
    "Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit... in order to be comfortable? That's when you know you found somebody really special: When you can just shut the fuck up for a minute, and comfortably share a silence."

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  • hey, aren't you all supposed to be too shy to talk about your shyness??

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